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4. “I Never Said/Did That”
This tactic involves denying or gaslighting the target’s memories or experiences. When confronted about their words or actions, the master of emotional manipulation flatly denies ever saying or doing the alleged things, even if they did. By gaslighting the individual, the manipulator makes them question their memory, perception, and sanity.
This creates confusion and self-doubt in the target leading them to question whether their recollections are accurate or if they are simply overreacting. As a result, the manipulator gains more control over the narrative and can avoid taking responsibility for their hurtful behavior. Over time, the target may begin to doubt themselves and rely more on the manipulator’s version of events further deepening the manipulator’s influence and control in the relationship.
Read: 5 Common Phrases You’ll Hear When A Manipulator Is Gaslighting You
5. “I Thought You Of All People Would Understand”
This statement is designed to guilt-trip and pressure the target into compliance or agreement. By appealing to the person’s sense of trust, empathy, or friendship, the manipulator attempts to make the target feel obligated to fulfill their request or support their viewpoint.
The implication behind this line is that the target’s refusal or disagreement is unexpected and hurtful because the manipulator believed they had a special bond or connection. This puts the target on the defensive, making them more likely to reconsider their stance or go against their own feelings in an effort to maintain the perceived special relationship.
In reality, this tactic exploits the target’s emotional vulnerability and uses their trust and connection against them to gain control or support for the manipulator’s agenda. By invoking this line, the manipulator attempts to manipulate the target’s emotions and sense of loyalty, which can lead to further emotional dependency on the manipulator and greater control in the relationship.
