CRA may be necessary, but they must be accompanied by alternative options. Instead of simply banning an action, propose another way of doing things. For example, “walking instead of running” gives the child a constructive solution to his or her behaviour.
4. Presenting options
Giving the illusion of choice can make children more cooperative. Offer them limited options for them to feel involved in the decision. For example, ask, “Do you want to choose your clothes or do you prefer me to do it?” It helps them feel more empowered while respecting the limits set.
5. Brief behaviour, not the child
It is important to distinguish between the child’s behaviour and the person. Avoid value judgments like “you are mean” and prefer behavioral criticism, as “what you did is not good.” This preserves the child’s self-esteem while correcting his or her actions.
6. Controlling emotions
Faced with a difficult situation, it is essential to remain calm before reacting. A quiet parent is better able to manage the situation constructively and set an example to their child.
7. Communicating expectations clearly
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