10 Things Women Who’ve Been Heartbroken Too Many Times Do

3. Hello Darkness, My Old Friend

Sadness becomes familiar. After enough heartbreak, it almost feels like an old companion. We learn to carry it quietly, to live with it. But over time, it becomes a filter that dims our joy. Sunshine feels harder to let in when the clouds have been there for so long.

4. We Avoid Love Stories

When we see couples holding hands or sharing sweet moments—on TV, on the street, or among friends—we feel a little sting. It reminds us of what we lost or what we fear we’ll never have again. So, we look away, pretending it doesn’t bother us.

5. We Build Walls

At some point, we promise ourselves never to get hurt again. So we build invisible walls—tall, strong, and impossible to climb. These walls keep pain out, but they also keep love out. When we stop feeling deeply, we also stop connecting deeply.

6. The Circle of Trust Gets Smaller

After being let down too many times, trusting others becomes difficult—not just in relationships, but in friendships too. We start sharing less, opening up less, and questioning more. Even those closest to us may find it hard to reach the heart we’re protecting.

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