If a man doesn’t appreciate you, the most important thing to remember is that …

4. Set consequences and follow through

If he ignores your needs or keeps disrespecting you, there must be a real consequence.

Walk away from conversations that turn into blame games

Pause intimacy or favors until there’s respect

Leave the relationship if there’s no change after your boundary

You can’t “love” someone into valuing you. But you can leave someone who refuses to.

5. Understand his behavior is not a reflection of your worth

His lack of appreciation doesn’t mean you’re not enough. It means he’s not capable or willing to give what you deserve.

Some people are emotionally unavailable, selfish, or too damaged to show consistent love. You can’t fix that for them.

6. Be ready to walk — and mean it

If appreciation doesn’t come with your presence, it might come with your absence. But even if it doesn’t — you win. Because you’re not in a one-sided relationship anymore.

If he wakes up after you leave, it’s on him to prove he’s changed — with actions, not promises.

7. Ask yourself: If nothing ever changes… am I okay staying?

If the answer is no — you already have your answer.

Bonus: Red flags of a man who doesn’t appreciate you

He only notices you when you stop giving

Dismisses your feelings or calls you “too emotional”

Doesn’t apologize or take accountability

Makes you feel like you’re always doing too much, but somehow not enough

Is more concerned with being right than being kind

Final truth:

You are not asking for too much. You are asking the wrong person.

Let go of the idea that you have to fight to be appreciated. The right person won’t need reminding.