6 Signs You’re Stuck in the “Roommate Phase” of Your Relationship
Ever look at your partner from across the couch and wonder—when did things change? You used to be inseparable, finishing each other’s thoughts, sneaking kisses in the kitchen, dreaming about your future together. But now… most of your talks are about who’s unloading the dishwasher.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Many couples who once shared deep passion and connection slowly drift into what’s known as the “roommate phase.” It’s rarely caused by one big event—it’s usually a quiet slide over time. The spark fades, the closeness weakens, and one day, you realize you’re living together but not really living together.
Here are six subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that your relationship may have slipped into the “roommate phase.”
1. You’re Living Separate Lives
You share the same address, maybe even the same bed—but emotionally, it feels like you’re miles apart.
Your daily routines barely cross paths. One of you leaves early, the other stays up late. You check in briefly about errands or bills, then go your separate ways. What used to feel like a shared life now feels like two independent ones happening under one roof.
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